“Camille Sapara Barton is a gift to all of us. ... This is what emergent strategy looks like at the precipice.”
—adrienne maree brown, author of Pleasure Activism

An embodied guide to being with grief individually and in community—practical exercises, decolonized rituals, and Earth-based medicines for healing and metabolizing loss

We live in a culture that suppresses our ability to truly feel our grief—deeply, safely, and on our own terms. But each person’s experience is as unique as the grief itself. Here, Camille Sapara Barton speaks directly to the ways that BIPOC and queer readers disproportionately experience unique constellations of loss—and offers grief rituals, somatic practices, and reflections for healing.

Deeply practical and easy to use in times of confusion, trauma, and pain, Tending Grief includes personal stories, reflection prompts, and exercises to help you process and metabolize your grief—without bypassing or pushing aside what comes to the fore. Sapara Barton includes exercises that can be done both alone and in community, including:

Altar practices to honor and connect with your ancestorsLocating, holding, and dancing your griefSharing circles for processing loss in communityWater, fire, and other nature-based ritualsHow to honor your survival responses—and know when to release themPeer support and integrationHerbal medicines and plant-based healing
Sapara Barton honors each and every experience of grief: The loss of displacement from homelands, from severed lineages and ancestral ways of knowing. The grief of colonization and theft. The deep heaviness that burrows into our bodies when society tells us our bodies are wrong. Practical tools and somatic rituals help readers feel into their grief, honor what comes up, and move forward in healing.

Written specifically to center and hold the grief of queer and BIPOC readers, Tending Grief is an invitation to reconnect to what we’ve lost, to find community in our grief, and to tend to our souls.

“Camille Sapara Barton is a gift to all of us, because they understand that every single one of us will grieve, and they have given us a way to understand how we can grieve in community and center care in the inevitable transitions of our lives. This is what emergent strategy looks like at the precipice.”
—adrienne maree brown, author of Pleasure Activism

“Camille Sapara Barton is undoubtedly one of our generation's luminaries, as this offering makes crystal clear. Camille's capacity to bring forward an imaginative yet consistently grounded and honest perspective about life's biggest inquiries—love, liberation, and loss—has made them a powerful and piercing voice in the emerging psychedelic ecosystem. It can be challenging to balance the visionary and the practical, made harder in a world that perpetually attempts to flatten and reduce everything holy to something consumable. Camille invites us all back into balance with the grace of a teacher and the patience of a parent, gently waiting for the rest of us to catch up.”
—Ismail Ali, Policy and Advocacy Director at the Multidisciplinary Association of Psychedelic Studies (MAPS)

"In this beautiful little book, Camille Sapara Barton offers readers a powerful medicine, not only for being with and moving through grief, but for responding to the social injustice that sickens our world. Setting sharp, lucid political analysis alongside transformative somatic practices, Tending Grief is an essential map for anyone who longs for collective healing. This is an invaluable resource for changemakers everywhere." 
—Kai Cheng Thom, author, mediator, and somatic coach

"Tending Grief is a cauldron containing the right ingredients to center our individual and collective grief. The kind of grief and loss that makes us raw, come undone, unravel, and come into our humanness. The ingredients in this magical cauldron in the form of a book are the historical and ancestral understanding of how we hold grief in our bones and bring it into our movements. Tending Grief calls us to turn toward our grief, acknowledge and respond to it, and allow it to move through and change us. This book is a vital tool and resource for the times we are wading through, times that are mirroring to us the patterns of what must change and change now."
—Michelle C. Johnson, author of Finding Refuge and We Heal Together